What I don’t understand is why she acted like this? If she wasn’t comfortable hosting me in her home, then she shouldn’t have offered to host me. I had planned to stay in a hotel anyway since my cousin wasn’t available.

That whole “performance” around her dysfunctional phone conversations with her mom and ignoring me, makes me wonder if she did that intentionally, so that I would leave. Because when I told her that I was leaving, she yelled, “well why didn’t you leave earlier?” Either she wanted me to leave earlier or she was surprised that I waited so long before deciding to leave.

I don’t know anyone who would act that crazy with a houseguest they invited, unless she had ulterior motives or she genuinely is so mentally ill that she didn’t think I would be bothered by the state of her house in disarray and her total lack of interpersonal boundaries.

I mean, 1) don’t invite me to visit 2) don’t invite me to stay at her house or 3) invite me to visit and find a nearby hotel and then suggest it to me. Those seem like rational choices?

I guess I am totally confused why she acted that way. Either she is really mentally ill or it was all a sort of performance?