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Old Jun 08, 2023, 04:28 AM
rdgrad15 rdgrad15 is offline
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Originally Posted by Blueowl View Post
I would say people who do this, and it's not because they're having a bad day, may be due to the fact that they consider you at a lower importance level. This is not a reflection of you or your worth, rather a reflection of them.

This happens to me at work all the time. As I've gotten older, i consider such people immature and not wise. I try not to let it bother me unless they can influence my career. And when it comes to this, it's either a waiting game until they leave or I start looking for other opportunities.

I work in a rather "traditional" field where most people are older than me and have wives who have stayed home and raised their families. Which, is commendable. I don't think SAHW or SAHM get enough praise for what they do - unpaid labor is hardly valued. But, in turn, rather than engage in intelligent conversations about what I do for a living, men comment on what I wear, my shoes, about my hair, etc. I wish they would show interest in what brings me to that place. I would never think to comment on some guy's pleated gray pants... or velcro shoes.

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I agree, I do believe people either think your less than them or see you as someone they can yell at with no repercussions when they do this.
Thanks for this!
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