bucky, I know exactly what you are going through right now. I've just recently gone through the same issue. It was really hard for a number of weeks for me. It took time for me to come to the final conclusion that no matter what my ex said was the reason for the breakup, it didn't feel right.....but really, it didn't matter anymore. Why would I want to continue pining for a man who obviously doesn't want to be with me for whatever reason???

It hurts....there is no doubt about it. The best healer is time. Sounds like an old cliche, but it's so true. During that time you will come to terms with her decision. During that time you will go through the whole gambit of emotions...from love to hurt to anger etc. It's a grieving process...you are grieving the loss of your ex and what you thought you both could have had together. It's hard to let go of those dreams.

I hope you know that no matter what her reason truly is, that you deserve to find the right woman for you. She is not the one. Like my ex was not the right man for me. No matter how much I love him, he has his reasons for splitting up....so be it. I believe that things happen for a reason. I like to believe that the reason for me is that there is someone out there more worthy of my love and companionship. Maybe that person is only me....maybe it's a man who has the same convictions and interest as I have....the world is our oyster and we can keep digging for the perfect pearl


sabby