Welcome to the forum, elanlaur.

So sorry you experienced this with your father.


I was in an emotionally incestuous relationship with my mother... I experienced what is called "parentification" as a child and, like you, grew up fast... yet, in my case, remained somewhat regressed in other ways.

I also experienced "triangulation" with my mother and grandmother (my mother's mother) which has the dynamic of victim, abuser, rescuer.

As the rescuer, I still find to this day that my instinct is to help someone else before helping myself... do you have that, as well.

I hope you find these forums to be as helpful as I do. And I wish you the best on your healing journey...