I actually thank God for this board,

Thank you ArmorPlate.

I have read, and re-read what you posted. Thank you.

The "sneaking" occurred when oldest came home one night and said:

"Where's mom?"

"She's working late today."

"No she's not. I was going to get gas and I followed her car through town like an hour ago."

"Are you sure?"

"Yes. I know our car and our license plate."

"Oh well. No big deal. Maybe she had plans after work or got off early."

"Well, we were supposed to be doing stuff tonight and she's blowing us off again."

Wife arrives home at the expected time, 3 hours after son saw her.

"Hey. He thinks he saw you earlier. He's pretty ticked. He said he was going for gas and he followed your car down main street. He thinks you blew him off for plans tonight, but I told him you were working until close."

"Why was he following me? Did you put him up to that? Do I have to check now to make sure I'm not being followed?"

"He wasn't following you. He was going for gas and thinks he was behind your car. Please talk to him."

"No. No. You said following. I heard you. Why do you have him following me?"

"No one is following you. Please talk to the big kid."

The next day she was doing the "sneak" thing through the house. The kids saw her, asked what she was doing, and she stopped, denied it.

GAWWWWWD! It's all so F'd up!