From what you've shared, it's very hard to disagree with your conclusion that your husband doesn't love you. This sounds like a terribly unhappy life for you to be living. It's okay for you to vent about it. Eventually, though, you probably need to do something more. With two very very young children to look after, I'm not sure what that is going to be. I'm glad you have family and friends that are interested in you and seem to really care about your well-being.

It may be that your husband is just not a loving man. He may be someone who wouldn't be capable of loving anyone. He may express concern about this gaming buddy, but he doesn't actually have to do anything for that person.

At some point, you may have to seriously consider leaving this marriage, but I can understand that you may feel too dependent on him right now. Therapy might help you. Do stay as connected as you can to those in your life who show you some warmth. Maybe confide in one of them and see what impression they have of how your husband treats you.

Some spouses are not very demonstrative and care more than they show. Somehow that doesn't seem to be the explanation for your husband's behavior. I'm sorry you're in such a discouraging situation, and I can see that it may be difficult to get out of. This sounds like emotional abuse. If there is an organization for abused women in your area, call and see if they could provide you with some counseling.