I had to chuckle about being different from a lot of women by going strawberry picking. Honestly most women, especially getting older, would prefer other stuff over going drinking. In my experience lots of women prefer to do lots of different things. Not sure what those women are for whom day time activity is something unique. Doing day time activity not involving substances is much better to get to know people

Maybe there’s a local venue you can go to if you want local guys? But actually an hour away is still local. I drive an hour one way for work. So it’s local.

No need for rough guys. Smart move ending it with him.

I’d try not to worry about if your ex sleeps with anyone simply because you slept with a significant number of men in just a few months yourself. Honestly it’s unlikely he already sleeps with anyone. Where and how he’d meet all these women willing to hook up? It’s not that easy! I am sure he’s not doing anything yet especially since he apparently quit his job. He sounds like a total mess