So you don't want to settle "for less?" Less than what? Right now you got nothing.

I didn't say you have to "end up" with any one particular person. Who says that person will want to end up with you? Nobody's your "only option." Once you realize you really "don't like" someone, you move on. Just like that person can move on, if and when they decide they really aren't all that taken with you . . . like your ex-wife moved on.

I see now what your problem is. You're rather quick to reject . . . because you don't want to have to "settle." You've passed up opportunities with women because you were afraid they might be unworthy of your interest. You came to that judgement without even knowing them.

Many years ago, I met a guy at a night spot. I wasn't too impressed with him, but he was pleasant enough. He wanted to see me again. I was planning to move to another part of the country soon and did not want to get involved with anyone where I was. I decided I wouldn't mind killing some time with this guy. I figured he wasn't someone I was going to fall for, and he seemed easy going and not likely to get overly hung up on me. So I gave him my phone number. I expected we might go out together a time or two, and then I'ld be leaving town. Thirty years later I was still with him.