I’ve talked about this one friend before who is not a part of my friend group that I also have issue with.. I’ve known her for 5 years I think. She ised to initiate plans with me, but she hasn’t intiated ANY plans for months. It’s been at least 6 months or more since she last invited me anywhere.

She confuses me since she says she cares about me & as far as U know, she doesn’t have any real issues with me. She only hinted at having to drive to my place to often. I was taken aback by that as I offered to see her where she lives, but since she is usually offering to drive to my area or meet me here since she works here, then I didn’t think that she has any issues with anything.

I did tell her to let me know if she wanted me to meet her where she lives more often. Anyways, she expressed interest in wanting to get a hotel & go out to dinner & a club around my birthday or after it.

It’s on the 4th of July. I asked her when she’d be free to go oit & she said she’s busy now & her sister’s birthday is coming up too.

Her & her husband took me out to dinner in the past. I’m no longer expecting that. She gave me a small early gift & that’s it. It’s obvious she downgraded the friendship.

She acts like she cares with her words., but her actions tell a different story. She uses the ‘I’m busy’ excuse to often. She even said that she’s working at home on the weekends now. I don’t know if that’s true or not or if it’s an excuse.

I don’t bother her all the time. I don’t text, call or message her that often. I’m starting to feel that even contacting her once every two weeks or more is still ‘excessive’ for her, idk. I told her that if she beeds spwce to let me know.

I dont know if this has anything to do with her behavior, but she’s a people pleaser who’s trying to set better boundaries.

And she doesn’t like discussing sny issues as she thinks that discussing anything that’s remotely‘negative’ or ‘unpleasant’ is ‘starting drama’. She tild me that she didn’t want to talk a out a toxic user leech that we used to be friends with one time. She did at another time on her terms though when she felt like talking about her.

I feel dismissed, disrespected & ignored. She keeps giving me ‘the I’ll think about it’ or ‘I’m busy’ excuse a lot instead of saying no or not interested.

Why? I never gave her a hard time for saying no,. Why can’t she be more honest & direct with me? I told her that I can handle a no answer.

Also, she kept telling me that she’d introduce me to her sister for 5 years & that never happened as her sistee is amways busy. Why would she say things she doesn’t mean? She did this with a job offer as her assistant too. I took her seriously ar first, but I got no real job description or interview or even asked for a resume! Wth?

What’s wrong with her? I don’t understand her! Is she doing the slow fade on me maybe?

The only reason why she might be uoset with me that I onow of is because I stopped talking to this toxic mooch she used to be friends with. I think she was upset that trying to pawn off that leech on me would make me contact her less. She was like, I thought she’d be perfect for you as you two live close to each other.

She seemed disappointed that things didn’t work out even though she herself stopped talking to that user. Weird! Why would she become more distant for no particular reason?