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Originally Posted by divine1966
It’s very upsetting. But hopefully you two could move on from this bad incident. Things happen.
Personally I’d apologize and hope she would apologize too and maybe I’d suggest to meet just two of you. Your mom means well and is overprotective, the way moms could certainly be, but you aren’t a little girl. Two 50+ ladies could hopefully make peace with each other without moms mediating. Personally I’d prefer it that way
My stepdaughters have difficult relationship with each other and currently aren’t speaking to each other. It’s a very complicated situation and source of pain for my husband. But we’ve learned that we can’t fight that battle for them and we can’t demand reconciliation. They need to figure it out or not figure it out. But we can’t fix their relationship because it could actually make it worse.
It’s a tough situation all around. I understand. I’d be very heart broken to have a rift with my brother. I hope it will be resolved soon for both of you
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Thanks. It IS very upsetting.
My sister and I have a history that I haven't told on here. She used me and hurt me very badly during her own divorce years ago. When she visited me in NM when I was living there, we had a HUGE fight then as a result. That was in 2010. I had forgiven but never forgot.
I will certainly apologize, but our relationship will never be close from here on out. She has proven to me that she doesn't truly care about me and resents me.
Friday is the anniversary of my father's death. We were supposed to all get together Friday anyways, so this is how my mother wishes to do it. I respect her wishes and don't want to upset her.
Mom is leaving for a trip overseas on Friday as well for two weeks. Mom needs to be reassured that all will be OK between my sister and I. She doesn't need this worry on top of everything else she is carrying. I have no problem with mom acting as a mediator and in fact, welcome it because I think my sister may explode on me otherwise.
I don't know if we can truly get past this. Thank goodness there are no holidays or family gatherings coming up any time soon. I will not be speaking much to my sister after this. She has hurt me very deeply, once again.