Thanks. It IS very upsetting.

My sister and I have a history that I haven't told on here. She used me and hurt me very badly during her own divorce years ago. When she visited me in NM when I was living there, we had a HUGE fight then as a result. That was in 2010. I had forgiven but never forgot.

I will certainly apologize, but our relationship will never be close from here on out. She has proven to me that she doesn't truly care about me and resents me.

Friday is the anniversary of my father's death. We were supposed to all get together Friday anyways, so this is how my mother wishes to do it. I respect her wishes and don't want to upset her.

Mom is leaving for a trip overseas on Friday as well for two weeks. Mom needs to be reassured that all will be OK between my sister and I. She doesn't need this worry on top of everything else she is carrying. I have no problem with mom acting as a mediator and in fact, welcome it because I think my sister may explode on me otherwise.

I don't know if we can truly get past this. Thank goodness there are no holidays or family gatherings coming up any time soon. I will not be speaking much to my sister after this. She has hurt me very deeply, once again.