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Originally Posted by Tucson
Hello all!
I am now engaged, incredible as it seems to me. I thought I would never get married again. My fiancé also has Bipolar I from a brain injury. We have been both concerned about side-effects of anti-psychotics. We are now really worried about this. Still I assured her some of more irritating side effects apart from hand tremor like lip smacking are uncommon. I hope I am right about this. Does anyone know?
Anyways, we have known each other for only about four months. Its like a relation that is running at warp speed. We both love each other very much. However, we will not get married for at least another year. We have some problems to work out.
I hope all is well with all of you! Please reply. I would like to hear from some of you.
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I think that nobody here can give you a satisfying answer. You can read about side effects of your medications and discuss your worries with your doctors.
Mutual love is a good start, but marriage, the way it usually has been understood, is to stay together in good and bad days. If you are going to marry somebody like yourself (bipolar), it is important that you have decided how to react when the other part is in the process of becoming manic or seem too close to tip into a deep depression. In my opinion you should agree about when the other part shall intervene. May be you can write down where the border goes and sign it? That may perhaps help you if/when a crisis develops.
Marriage is a commitment. There will be good days and not so good days. May be it can help you to discuss how to live together in "the not so good days" (I don't mean dealing with MI, but when you disagree about something and one of you have to give up one's wish).
Generally I send good wishes for you (both) now and for your future!
