Why did you go away on your own and not with your wife? Something is definitely going on, I just wish you would tell me rather than my mind going to all the bad places - did you have an affair, did you do something else bad? I know it might not be anything to do with you, but these thoughts then make me want to push you away in case you are a person that would do that and can’t be trusted. It makes me angry with you, which I know is absolutely unfair. But it’s not like I can talk about this with you.

At the same time, the fact that you spent five minutes recording bird song whilst you were away because you knew I would like it and you thought it would be fun for us to ID the birds together was really thoughtful. It’s nice to know that for those few minutes I was in your thoughts.

Hopefully it won’t take too many sessions for us to get some form of connection back and you will stop feeling so much like a stranger. This is why you going away is so difficult to manage.