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nonightowl · 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yeah there’s been times where I want to ask someone why they get mad at me over some stupid stiff but not at other people for the same thing. Also I don’t mind you being here and that’s good the threads resonate with you.

I'd do this, but it'd only be in person because there's no way I'd be aware of it otherwise. Like if it's in a meeting for example. But if it's over the phone or online (you can't tell someone's tone on there though), I'd be oblivious.

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Originally Posted by Discombobulated

You are always so polite and considerate in your posts here I’m sure you can do this politely - good luck!

As an aside I’m an older worker, in my mid years and work with a young team, there is no way I would talk disrespectfully to any of them, they are my equals, there’s no excuse for a superior attitude in workplaces or anywhere for that matter.

I agree. I like how you acknowledge everyone's posts and quote them too. I feel heard on your threads.

And I'm with Discomb on this, as I'm even older than she is and I wouldn't talk down to people---younger or older than me. Because I've experienced it myself, I wouldn't do it to others. I've had people much older than me have the nerve to say stuff like "You're too young for back pain" when they don't know me at all. It's supposed to be a compliment but it isn't. It's condescending and presumptuous. So I'd never say to a younger person their back can't be bothering them. It's so invalidating and I've been on the receiving end of that crap. And grew up hearing it too.

Co-workers are your co-workers, not your subordinates unless you're a boss.

And even then respect should be given. Unfortunately not all bosses are like that.

I do feel there's generation gaps, in that someone much younger can't really know what it's like to be my age....and vice versa. And this continues, generation after generation. I think each can learn from the other, but I don't get that kind of vibe out there.

Younger people shouldn't assume we can't use technology, and older people shouldn't expect younger people to know how to use it. Actually I hate the words "should/shouldn't" but don't know what else to use here.

Maybe I'll say it isn't right to think older people are not tech-savvy. I know enough to get by, and I've used a computer since the 80's even though they were big as refrigerators then.