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Originally Posted by divine1966
She’s going on a date because she was asked on a date. I haven’t read all your posts but did you ask her out? If you didn’t, then how do you know she is interested or not?
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I did on some occasions. I asked her to run together - I knew she was trying to get started but was frustrated that she did not always find the motivation - she was happy, agreed and did eventually cancel as she felt intimidated by the distance (oddly, she used to run further but on a short circuit where she could stop at any time possible while I proposed one loop as her circuit is too narrow to run together). But she did propose another day. She did not manage either but she did propose a third moment.
Same thing happened with last weeks dance workshop. I asked her out, she seemed happy with my question but backed out. Last week's workshop was her alternative. Yesterday's workshop was her idea, maybe a coincidence but she asked after I had been chatting to another woman in our group for half an hour.
I am reluctant to ask again because it causes so much stress but I do try when I see an opportunity.
Something that I was reminded of when talking to a friend just now ... we ususally ride part of the way home together. She always explicitly asks whereas I find riding together self-evident.
I think some things have a positive outlook - like the happiness when I ask her out - but there is always this step back.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
Have I read it correctly about tinder? Do you mean online? Tinder is usually for hookups, not looking for a relationship
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I know a number of people who have started relationships through tinder. I have the impression that it is very diverse nowadays. I am not looking for hookups.
If I make a good estimation, neither is my crush. We have a mutual friend who she labels as "maybe" (I often feel intimidated by him even if she has stated a number of times that she is not interested in him) but only goes for a "hell yeah". She often says she needs a lot of love, care and attention. I don't believe she is searching for hookups either. I think she know very well this will not bring her happiness and that she is probably too fragile for hookups.