It takes the brain time to accept that that person you remembered and loved and idealized is no longer really there. You only got bread crumbs to get your hopes up and then the negative.

You had been stuck in the discard phase for a while if you sit and really think about it honestly. It did not matter that you not only were the main provider but you also cooked and cleaned and took care of your children and even did the laundry. That just made her resent you even more and get jealous even more.

Yet in her twisted mind that her friends encourage is this is all the MANS fault. All women are victims which is not true and too broad brushed black and white thinking.