The approach avoidance repetition compulsion stems from attachment issues and is a very strong force behind the rocky interpersonal relationships issue. I learned a lot about it due to my own issues. My therapists/doctors didn’t tell me about it. I watched a million videos. I feel it is crucial to understand the science behind what happens in behavior as a foundation to learning to stop dysfunctional patterns.

Then, I agree, you need to work on learning healthy relationship behaviors before moving on into new situations. It is a tough road and I send you support and strength.