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Originally Posted by divine1966
I am extremely confused.
You were repeatedly asking on here how you can ask her out and how you could express your feelings etc you were doing it as recent as yesterday. Then when she asks you out you say no because you didn’t want to accommodate her ambiguity and now you are saying you are done pursuing her all together.
First of all her going on dates is perfectly acceptable as she’s single. Her going on a date shouldn’t be a blow. You aren’t dating her or asking her out, why can’t she go on dates. You also can’t say she goes on dates with some other guys while rejecting you. Not sure why you say that. She never said no to you because you never made your interest known.
As about talking about her to people who know her for a long time and they are telling you what kind of men she dates, wow. They aren’t to be trusted. What sneaky people gossiping behind her back. They’ll do it to you too. Not honorable folks
Not sure why you set a time limit for relationship. I got married at 50. I don’t know how old you are but what’s the rush? You are setting yourself for failure.
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She did know in advance that I would probably not go. I explained why weeks before).
In addition, part of my agony over this date stems from my history with her accepting my every invitation and in the end backing out at every occasion. That this is the type of guys she has always talked about when she talked about exes and that - even if she signals that she is "doing it again" - this is exactly such a guy only adds to that.
I talked about how I experienced these last months in trying to get closer to her. I signalled a pattern I was beginning to sense. My interpretation was confirmed. You can think of me what you want but I am far beyond the point where I can bear this alone. I need the support of others and of the entire group, there is only one person I do trust.
As for the deadline. I turned 50 in April. Therapists of all sorts have been promising me a great future for 30 years. So far it hasn't happened (and it is not for lack of trying, all my efforts have only contributed to my anxiety). I lost my faith that things can still turn around for me. I have suffered enough. It is time this glorious future begins. I know I will most likely fail, but maybe the only desire I have left is to have this last push to help me over the edge.