My ex liked to judge and make character assessments, or attacks based off of small things I did, or misunderstandings.

A week after I broke up with him, he started text bombing me about that one time I didn’t do his laundry for him, or complete the yard work because I didn’t live there and had to go into work. Of course he forgot about the fact I had to go to work and said I just left it because I am lazy and self centred.

He also brought up that one time he was opening up to me and I was cold to him. Nothing of the sort even really happened to my knowledge. It was something that happened a couple months ago but of course this was never really discussed while I was with him at the time.

It’s like they’re digging up anything they can to make you feel bad or sorry in a hopes they’ll feel some sort of control or power over you.

My mans could not understand I broke up with him because I considered his addiction to be out of control and toxic to my health. He got mad at me and accused me of making him uncomfortable for asking him to smoke outside; like most smokers get that’s just basic consideration to the health of others.

The accusations of “greedy and selfish” could really be applied to the lack of consideration surrounding his addiction to smoking and alcohol.

He got mad at me for not relaxing and drinking more around him.

Like if your partner breaks up with you because you refuse to acknowledge how toxic your addictions are, and in fact you try to make your partner feel uncomfortable for setting reasonable boundaries, the problem is you.

I broke up with this guy a week and half ago so it’s still fresh in my mind.