I am so glad that you had a better day with your wife. I would still recommend therapy though, maybe couples therapy, to help you two set boundaries around alcohol/weed.

It's totally reasonable that you do not want to do either, and it's totally reasonable that your wife enjoys these things. As a couple, for you to continue, there have to be agreements on what's acceptable and what's not. What can you tolerate and what can't you?

I wouldn't leave it to chance that she "sees how good life really is without putting junk in her body." If you two have different beliefs/values around drinking/recreational drug use, then the best way to stay together is have a clear understanding of boundaries. It seems you don't mind her having a drink, but you mind her being drunk. In terms of gummies, perhaps this is something she can do on a girl's night, but not around you. But it should be clear what you two agree on.

I hope it continues to work out for you.