Thanks @Rose76 for your thoughtful reply and sharing your own experience, it’s helpful to know I’m not alone. The shift in dynamic of a relationship is difficult, and we’re only at the start of what I see as these changes. I think some of the snapping is about my fears for the future. And yet I know I have so much to be grateful for, some people never find the connection that we did and still have. Maybe it’s because it’s so precious that I fear losing it in some way - I’m thinking out loud of course.

I actually volunteer (part of my role) in carer support and I see incredibly brave and resourceful people week in week out. I’m not sure I’ve got the metal they’ve got but then I’m sure they have their vulnerable moments too.

A joint of meat can be a big hunk of beef, pork or lamb, in UK it’s normally for roasting as a traditional Sunday meal. In this case it was beef, priced upward of £15 so you can see if you have three or four you’ve got a resale value (normally on the street or a pub and some unscrupulous restaurants buy them). I’d like to think it’d put him off but I doubt it, the store put a radio call out to the other stores to let them know he was out anyway, we have our own shared system because the police will not usually attend these crimes anymore. Nothing I can do about that.