But this IS the one who got away. Are you saying you have never experienced loss or failure, that those feelings are all on her?

I remember getting a major car door ding before age 21, or how it felt the first time i got my ears pierced, around the same age. Sounds a bit silly now, but those were pretty strong feelings of loss back then.

So... you never lose at board games? Do you tell yourself you are letting your kids win?