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Have you ever had a healthy relationship? Did your parents have a healthy relationship that you could learn what a healthy relationship actually was like personally?
My parents had a dysfunctional marriage. I never really learned what a functional relationship was like but always felt there was more to it than I was experiencing. Ended up getting married tova dysfunctional guy then add my learned dysfunction to that & my marriage was as dysfunctional in its own way as my parents were. All my career relationships were at surface level & avoided close friendships.
It wasn't till after my parents died & I left my dysfunctional marriage & got good therapy & experienced being around healthy people who knew how to have healthy relationships that I learned how. I live alone with my critters but have finally had closer healthy friendship relationships. Not interested in any relationships other than that at this point in my life but it is nice to have real friends now......while enjoying my life alone too.
Bottom line.....you have to know what & how to have a healthy relationship is before you can have one & that takes work & practice before it becomes a natural part of our being
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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