Buckyuck1, really good insights and advice here from our members.
I, too, have been there, like the other posters. I hate to repeat the cliche, but, yes, time is the best healer. At times I wished there was a "pill" that would make it all go away and I'd be over it immediately.
I"m 4 years since my last attempt at a relationship, the one that brought me here. In that time, despite the hurt I was feeling, I picked myself up and got my M.A. (from scratch), working very hard for the degree. At first I was a walking zombie, but as each year passed, I found myself more and more interested in my surroundings, my projects, and attaining my degree. I've just finished this, and I'm proud I didn't just wallow in the pain.
I don't think it's a good idea to plunge into another relationship quickly, which is what many people do. I went to dinner with one man who sat and cried over his "surf and turf" about his lost girlfriend! Lliterally, cried, LOL!
I say do good things for yourself! Be with friends, travel, and find things that interest you.
Love
Patty