Thanks for the reply. It is really difficult to be in a relationship with someone who struggles with severe mental health issues. In a way I have implemented your advice because I have stopped relying on him for much help around the house or with the children and having redefined that in my head it really has helped me be less resentful.

I could change my mind but right now I'm not willing to accept this concept of an "open marriage". However, I also don't want to hold his feet to the fire on these major life decisions when he is in a depressive episode. I do think I need to talk to a therapist and an attorney at least to protect myself and see what the options are.

My husband is actually in therapy but he doesn't want to hear what anyone is saying. He has convinced himself there is exactly one path forward and although no one agrees with him he is intent on it. I may end up having to let him self destruct although it certainly is not what I want for myself, for him or my kids.


I do appreciate your advice and experience so thank you!