Thank you so much for your advice. This is a really smart financial check list. Luckily, I already have my own bank account and the house is in both of our names. Since we both work full time and haven't stopped, even though I am not fully financially independent from him I feel very lucky that I do have some degree of independence and awareness there.
He has never been violent or abusive nor has he had any problems with substance abuse so we are good there too but I very much appreciate all of the tips because you can never be too sure.