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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
Totally. I just wanted to add another perspective so that Scarlet didn't feel overwhelmed by the fear that there is no way L will be ready to come back in three or four months as she intends. It would have been a completely reasonable timeline in my experience but maybe not for other people. It also helps that I have an excellent co-parent who shared night wake-up duty equitably. Not everybody can swing that, and it helped me feel more like myself again much faster.
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I thought the issue isn’t as much as how you yourself feel but rather what are your child care arrangements, what you can afford and what is your maternity leave etc Nurseries are very expensive and it’s not easy to take a three months old baby to a day care. And not everyone feels ready to take an infant to a day care. And if there’s no family near by and your partner also has to work full times, then your options are limited.
In my example it wasn’t because duties weren’t equally distributed or there’s no good co-parenting, that certainly isn’t the case, but because taking a very young child to day care to be there all day long is not easy for many new parents.