I am sorry about the car. It’s horrid. So disturbing.

I don’t think it’s unusual for people to stay in houses of their married friends when visit from out of town. People do it all the time and no they aren’t swingers. Lol

But these are actual people everyone knows well, like long term friends etc it’s not uncommon. Now inviting strangers to stay with you and your husband, that’s unusual. My husband is probably the easiest going person I know. He’s ok with everything. But he’d be taken aback if I told him I’ve met this person online and she will be staying in our house. He’d likely worry if it’s safe as neither of us met this person

The fact that all these people were ok with it is kind of strange. It seems like first woman’s husband wasn’t possibly ok with it as he wasn’t even there but was somewhere with a roommate? And both women didn’t even plan on hanging out with you. It sounds like perhaps they were just doing small talk “come visit me” and weren’t really planning for it in real sense especially since they didn’t plan any activities. And one didn’t even have food at home-or dishes or electricity or planned on offering you a meal?

You did nothing wrong except perhaps being too trusting. These women were rude and mean and I think you are lucky it did not end with violence. Sadly that could end much worse than it did.

None of it means you can’t meet up with strangers. You can: . In the middle of the day in a local area in a busy public place like having lunch at the mall. Or walk in a busy open (not wooded) park. Or in a large group. Eventually of course it would be just fine to go to each other houses but not before you know each other well enough.