Often people carry their own perception of a relationship that doesn’t see the reality of the dysfunction taking place. When reality is revealed it can leave someone not only shocked but very confused and even feeling like a failure or it’s their fault.

In your case, your wife developed a problem with alcohol. Had your wife been also taking Xanex or some other Benzo medication? Combining the two can increase hallucinations and psychotic episodes and memory loss as well as boughts of anger and strange mood shifts.