Hi all,
I'm having a really hard time at the moment with the relationship between my sister and I. This spans 5 decades but it really kicked off in December when I refused to help her buy a flat next door to me (she was asking for information, not money) as I said it was too close. She blocked me but finally responded to a message I sent in Feb (No response to a Christmas message). I suggested we see a therapist together to work this through and we've now had 3 sessions (virtually) After the last session she sent me a WhatsApp saying (amongst other things)

"I think one of the things that I need you to hear is that you pushing me away, has caused me decades of pain. I further felt the loss of our potential relationship because I craved a safe and loving family.
From my perspective, the wall is why I pulled away late last year. From my side ( not equal I know) our relationship was very strong but it broke finally. I grew too weak at the face of the wall. I’m still in pain."

Now, in the sessions I acknowledged to myself and my sister, that I have been pushing her away so I'm owning that. I needed the therapists help to do that and I've been feeling very sad about it. The reasons why I push her away though are because she doesn't listen to me, wants me to be somthing other than I am, has manipulated me into doing things I don't want to do and generally vents all her ***** in my direction. She is far more emotional than I and the therapist has used the term "Unbridled Self Expression" with her. Personally I think the wall I put up is for my own self protection,

But I do want to respond to this message in a productive but authentic way. Do I write her an email and basically said above? Or how do I respond to this? Any thoughts welcome!?