@Soupe du jour I hope that you find a therapist that use some techniques that seem familiar to you. If they present themselves with a few words at their web-page, you will easily find out if the therapist is at a level you can identify with or not.

Some years ago I was in a crisis and had to take the first (but not best) therapist that could take me in, if I wanted the national insurance company to pay for it. There was even a six month waiting row. The therapist was a gestalt therapist.

I don't like that approach and it didn't help much, but I felt that it was better to have somebody to talk to at a regular base then to have none at all. At that time I sat home and made my own advises for myself. I knew about CBT and made my own advises from me to me in line with CBT tecniques.

Later I have been able to make my own advice from that time work without a therapist. It is the knowledge about that I have made it before that I hope will help me now.

I had a CBT therapist before Christmas last year. I found him at Internet and I paid for the online-sections of my own pocket. It was good to be able to pick a therapist of my own liking by what I read about the therapist before we started.

(To get a therapist at my place is like being in a lottery if one is going to be dependent on the ones that are covered by insurance. I want to know what I get before I order. For the time being I have no therapist. Cannot afford it. So I use old methods learned in former time).

If you have the money to pay out of your own pocket, may be you can find somebody in UK. I did a search for you. I don't want to be an intruder in your life, but I understand how hard it must be to be an American and not having a therapist talking your own language. I hope this web-page is British (that was what I searched for): https://www.betterhelp.com/get-start...nd=1&gor=start

If you cannot afford to chose and pay out of your own pocket, take what you get and try to do the best out of it like I did when I couldn't chose and was dependent on the insurance. Please give the therapist space to know about your now (how you feel) and how it has been before, before you and she/he can build the necessary professional relationship as a frame to work in together.

And I have to say it once more: "Please excuse if you feel I am intruding". Tell me so and I will keep my fingers away from the PC with regard to this topic.

Am sending my best wishes for you in the situation you are in now!