I saw red flags before the wedding & managed to logic them away since I had no one willing to support my concerns. I saw & experienced red flags after the wedding. Just made me fight harder against them & over the 33 years it got unbearable. Think the T we were seeing at the end summed it up well.....He never out grew the emotional marurity of a 13 year old. Who wanted to be a mother to a 54 year old husband. Had better things to do with my life