What if it's somebody you can't get away from? For example, you're still under age, and it's your parent or grandparent who does it?

Of course I wouldn't hang around people who would maliciously keep on XYZing forever, now that I do have the luxury of cutting off contact with them.

But it does seem that an awful lot of people want to XYZ the very minute I express that I don't like it.

To be specific, on another part of the internet I stated that I don't think it's a compliment to call a woman "young lady" if she isn't young. First of all, "young lady" is what you call a child when you're scolding her for misbehavior. ("Young lady, that's enough backtalk!") Second, if you see your 70-year-old neighbor getting her mail, and you call out, "Hello there, young lady," all that does is call attention to the fact that she *isn't* young. Because if she were, you wouldn't feel the need to reassure (delude?) her about it. For both of these reasons, I think "young lady" is actually condescending, not polite.

I deleted my own post after people started responding to it for the sole purpose of calling me "young lady."