What the bartender and her mother are doing is wrong. It’s a narcissistic smear campaign. Yes, it was rude of them to not respond to you. This shows they aren’t really your friend, but are just using you to help them harm the venue.

The hippie pot culture’s motto is “peace and love”. I have found these people are just as likely to be every bit as contrary to that idea as anybody. It is true that nightclub venues where people are drinking and drugging are more dysfunctional than places without substance users.

It’s good that you are focusing on activities that bring out your best. There you will find others that are focused on the same.