I guess that i am having such a difficult time accepting this.

My family - elderly parents and adult children - all love her and are very close to her and I'm stuggling to find a way to explain it to them in such a way that doesn't reflect negatively on her.

Her adult son is very close to me and her 18 year old daughter, whom we have raised since she was 10, is also very close to me.

I invested everything into this wothout any safety mechanism and i never imagined us not being together and living on opposite sides of the country.