The way bartender and her mother go about it tells me that perhaps there’s more to the story. What really happened with that boyfriend and why she was really fired is not 100% set in stone. Who abused who remains to be seen plus what other things went down. Firing just because boyfriend told bartender to fire her is uncommon.

Plus even the most involved parent won’t messaging everyone about her daughters business. And i am not sure if you know these people personally, see them and talk to them outside the venue and if you know them well. Probably not that well. Perhaps I’d not think of them necessarily as friends.

Bartender rudely not replying to you just shows that maybe she wasn’t fired because of her boyfriend.