Oh I would’ve hated what your ex did to you with the snakes - it’s a terror of mine too. Fortunately I live in a place where snakes are a rarity but in the past people have deliberately teased me with model snakes which also scare me.
I think they thought it was funny to see me scream but I have always explained that it’s a phobia and I can’t help my reaction. Maybe it’s a power thing too idk.
Hugs.