@Samicat, they do sound mighty frugal! And I understand you wishing your brother would finally enjoy something extra, in the the midst of (and after) his cancer treatments. Perhaps if he's not used to treating himself, he doesn't miss not doing so. Or maybe he does worry that his wife and son will need the money, if anything very horrible happens? I hope his cancer goes into remission soon and stays so.

Your nephew will be mighty lucky to get a condo as a present. I agree it sounds spoiling. I assume he's an only child? Or maybe they want to ensure he finally leaves the nest?

I'm very frugal in some ways, though not all. I do eat very well (quality food), but then again cooking is a passion of mine and I adore veggies. However, if I was a multi-millionaire, I'd probably still want a Subaru as a car, and wear much of what I wear now. Also the same outfits again and again.