Another post about my brother, just for a fuller picture.

My brother was severely abused by my mother, from when he was 3-11 mostly. He was ridiculed and mocked and punished by her, mostly for his problem with wetting his pants and the bed. I mean, it was so bad that I (who was only 2 years older) used to tell her off and get in trouble myself. I hated it. At age 11, my father took him to a urologist who said he had some kind of medical problem requiring surgery. After that he didn't wet his bed or pants anymore. But my mother still insisted he had done those things to defy her!


She was also cruel to us both as teenagers, especially after my father left. She beat my brother with a belt.

I had years of counselling for what happened, but my brother never got counselling. This is why I think he has confidence issues. He also deeply wishes he had gone further in school and got a degree. But he refuses to think of doing any of that now, unfortunately. He is a genius (literally genius IQ - smarter than me) and he spent most of his life working for a small company delivering office products. His big hobby is online F&SF video games, but he also does a lot of computer stuff with Linux including building computers from recycled parts. I think he could find some job in computing possibly with seniors where his age wouldn't be an issue. I have some aptitude with computers myself but he has much more.