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Soupe du jour
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Originally Posted by Soupe du jour
Hi Rosi. First off, thanks for your kind response to my thread, and good wishes to you, as well.
The program you describe sounds very good. I like how it includes an emphasis on what I believe is "mindfulness" in CBT/DBT. Your ideas for activities are good ones for that. I find when I need to focus my "world" on positives, nature helps about the best. I love birds and gardening. Observing in all ways (visual, auditory, and in some cases touch) is soothing for me. Seeing new things is also good. I also enjoy cooking. It particularly focuses my attention. They both provide a bit of exercise. I haven't been up to doing intense exercise, but for now that's OK. I hope you won't be hard on yourself if you achieve only some of what you plan.
I try to live "in the moment" as much as possible. Also part of mindfulness.
You are not a fool, Rosi. That's called "labeling" in CBT. You have some many positive attributes that I've observed even here on a forum. Please remind yourself of those many things. In addition, I think it's been helpful for me to simply be "an observer" in the world. I'm a person who absorbs the beauty of certain sounds (music, bird song, clothes washer swishing, breezes), is rewarded by the sight of trees. It's fine to just "be". Or as I walk down a road, my presence plays a part in the song of the world. Do you know what I mean?
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Thank you!
You sound almost like my father. He could find beauty in a raindrop hanging on branch of a tree and shout out for joy because the sun was reflected so beautifully in the raindrop. Or he could sit down close to an anthill and teach me, when I was a little girl, to look at how wonderful it was to look at the ants while they were working. He was not a professional gardener, but very clever with our garden. He was even able to make plants from other continents to grow in our garden. He planted them inside first, moved them according to how much sun they needed and sat them out in the Summer.
So I use the here and now approach, but I seldom do mindfulness. I like to use other relaxation exercises that really works for me when I use them, especially Autogenic Training, because when one has learned that, one is also able to use self-hypnosis on self-instructions. That is the only relaxation exercise, that I know of, that makes it possible to do hypnosis on oneself.
For the time being I try to do self-hypnosis on forcing myself to use my daily planner. The most important distraction, however, is my own thoughts that for the moment is working on building down what I try to build up. I mean I decide to do so and so, and then inner thoughts disturbs me (like "I am stupid" or other ...).
I am not strong enough at this point to not fall into the trap of pondering around them and then the clock ticks and I feel that I am in lack of time. Then I blame myself for having wasted my time and so it goes into a negative spiral ... May be I should take into account that I am a Diabetic (too high or too low levels of blood glucose) make me tired and tirednes is part of "making room" for negative thoughts. Perhaps I need to be more kind to myself.
I think I do an "all or none" type of thinking or what is called "catastrophe thinking" right now, like if I fail now, I will not reach my goal at six weeks. But if I am persistent enough, hopefully all these negative thoughts will be won over by more positive ones.
Thanks again for your kind words, Soupe. They are appreciated!
