Trigger warning!

None of these incidents are recent. I need to know why I was a victim each time. It can’t just be bad luck. The only common theme is that each incident took place after I was drinking at a club or at a bar.

I’d appreciate insight & how to avoid these scenarios aside from drinking & going to clubs alone of course. Never again btw. I’ll definitely go out with someone else next time. I wasn’t even safe with friends or acquaintances a few times, so that’s no guarantee.

Anyways, the first incident happened at a hookhah place. I bar hopped with a large group. I left when they closed with a guy & a woman. No one was around.

This big guy comes up to me & grabs my wrist hard & hurts me. He asks me to turn around. I scream at him to let me go. He doesn’t. Eventually he does. The woman leads me away & told me that he wasn’t in our group.

The guy talked to him & got him to leave. That was scary! I know he would’ve tried to rape me if they weren’t there.

He had some nerve attacking me! No one thought to call the police, weird! I was in shock.

The second time happened with a so called friend & his weird g.f at a bar. This time it was a woman I was sitting down & this weird woman came up behind me a shook her breasts against my back. I was to shocked to say anything then.

They didn’t see anything. I told them what happened & my friend laughed & told me to take it as a compliment as she probably liked me! Wth? I doubt he’d find it funny if some strange guy rubbed their crotch against him! He accused me of ‘ruining’ his pool game when I asked if we could leave.

He yelled at me. I should’ve had security kick that lacy out. I ended that so called friendship. His weird g.f said nothing.

Another time this weird female bartender at a sleazy bar my former friend took me to was cool at first. She gave us free shots. Then after the bar closed my friend invited her & a guy at the bar back to our hotel to drink more. We bought booze nextdoor.

I told her no, but she said she’s a good judge of character. Obviously not as thar psycho grabbed my arm outside for no apparent reason. I told her to let go but she wouldn’t. She didn’t say anything . The guy did nothing.

She was a block away & she couldn’t hear me scream. I ran to the hotel & told her to not let them in. She did. I told them to get out at one point after that girl kept poking me. My friend just sat there & cried & the guy was sitting there & making comments about how this was better than German porn, ugh!

So my idiot friend let them stay & I went to the bedroom & cried. She paid for the room I didn’t think to call the manager or the police, duh!

Nothing happened thankfully They parties & the girl went swimming naked when it was cold outside.

The MOST bizarre incident of all though was at a show . I was alone at a small club. I stupidly had to much to drink & while in line, decided to approach the band I liked outside. No one else did.

A roadie stopped me & said, no prostitutes . I was all covered up in jeans, a long sleeved shirt & a leather jacket. I told him that I wasn’t one & that I just wanted to say hi to the band.

I told him that I’m not one & then asked for an apology. He refused so I flipped him off, lol. He then said I wouldn’t get in. I said that I have a ticket & I insulted him & he left, lol. Not a wise decision In retrospect

I should’ve complained about him to management instead. So things were fine after that until the lead singer of the band stood inches away from me onstage. I literally had to look up at him to avoid looking at his groin area, lol.

Then he thrust his groin area towards my face! My jaw dropped! I should’ve moved then! I wanted to enjoy the rest of the show though, lol. I stupidly didn’t think he’d do anything that weird & crazy again.

Idk if he got an uncontrollable erection or if he did thar on purpose to mess with me or show that he was attracted to me. He had a gorgeous g.f art the time. I was covered up aside from wearing a tight sort of low cut too though, but I didn’t look like a slut, lol 😆

So, why would any guy stick his groin area in a woman face? Especially on stage! Isn’t that embarrassing? Don’t guys normally try to hide erections? lol

He was hot, but that was to much & scary! I wasn’t there to sleep with him or anyone else as I’m married & asexual too

So after the show was over, he must’ve either wanted revenge for supposedly rejecting his advances or his offer to go backstage or give me water.

I blacked put out of fear. I just sensed him crouching down in front of me. I saw nothing which was weird. I was frozen until I felt droplets of water on my face & jacket.

I then managed to give him a dirty eff off look I didn’t see his reaction but obviously he knew that I was upset so he left. I wiped my face & stood there in shock. No one did anything but these two nasty girls by me made a rude comment & so did another person by the door No one else laughed though.

Thank god. I felt so humilated. Why the hell would a rockstar target a fan like that for no paticular reason? He must be used to girls looking at him by now.

Did he maybe assume that I was a groupie? Was he hoping I’d meet him after the show & when I didn’t. he wanted to take me backstage ? And when I didn’t respond, he got mad & decided to have fun & give me a ‘facial’ that he no doubt jerked off to later? lol 😆

He might’ve thought that he could do whatever he wanted with me as I had to much to drink.

I never heard of him doing that to any fan before. A lady who knew him said that he’s cool & fun to hang out with.

So like an idiot, I stupidly asked two of the band members to sign my C .D so that I could ask them when the leas singer would be out. I wanted an apology. lol

The first one said that there was no love lost there What does that mean exactly? He did sign my C.D. They both said he’d be out in 45 minutes he’s doing an interview

I decided to leave fortunately. That guy is crazy! I’ve been to lots of shows & not even Marilyn Manson himself did anything like that to me! He just looked ar me once!

No one cared about what happened or asked me if I was OK or not.

Please don’t say that all of this could’ve been avoided if I wasn’t drinking or by myself. I know that now. I was careless & naieve. Never again.

I don’t dress provocatively or flirt with people btw.

Maybe my timid body language screams easy target? I’m not a confident person. I try to not act or look nervous, but I guess thar predators can spot the fakers well.

Maybe I give off a nervous scared vibe? I have social anxiety. Idk. Why would anyone want to hurt or humiliate stranger for no apparent reason?

There are two other stories that involve alcohol, but this is to long of a novel already

Thank goodness that I had the good sense to not go backstage with that rockstar. I’m sure that he wanted to have sex with me & who knows what would’ve happened if I said no? He obviously doesn’t handle rejection well.

Someone please tell me exactly why he thrust his groin area in my face. I know that sounds obvious, but I need a detailed answer, lol

Also, why did he throw water on my face after the show? Was that to get back at me for rejecting bim? Was he trying to get me to go backstage or just maybe offer me water? Again, I’m clueless obviously, but that’s what I think he wanted me to do, lol.

For the record, I rarely go to clubs anymore. I went with a friend last time. Of course 3 rude guys bumped into me on purpose, but that’s it.

How can I avoid being a victim in the future & what should I do next time in each circumstance? Contact management or the police? I will. I’ll take it easy with the booze too.

There are some messed up psychopaths out there! Thank goodness nothing that bad happened to me!

Ladies, carry pepper speay with you. It saved me from getting raped at a other time. I didn’t mention that story. I don’t want a would be rapist to maybe find me on here.

It’s best to not give out identifying info. I’ll just day that he obviously came prepared as he was wearing a groin guard, so kicking him didn’t do anything to him.

I didn’t have it on me ar those other times or I didn’t think to use it then. As I said, I froze. Why? What’s wrong with me?

I’d appreciate any insight, advice & support