@Nammu - I just noticed your previous post about my brother. Yes, they will absolutely be hit with "empty nest" syndrome - especially if their son ever moves far away. I think part of the issue with my brother is that he deeply regrets not pursuing a different education/career and thinks his life is basically over. I really wish he would take some of that huge pile of money he and his wife have accumulated and spend it on himself, on upgrading his computer skills to get into a job or even volunteering. For instance we have an organization in our city that takes old computers and fixes them up and installs free open-source software and gives the computers to schools and low-income people. He would do awesome at that.

@Soupe du jour I do tell him I love him and will absolutely tell him to be kinder to himself. He deserves to spend money on healthy food for himself, and also to get a better job. I remember him teaching himself to program our computer when he was 10 years old-- Delivery Driver is not the best career for him!!!

Also Soupe, I'm glad you and your sister have a way to talk now. It's awful that her husband monitors her. That is abuse. He may have installed programs on her computer or phone that will track her - she should get a professional to see if there is malware on her phone.