So, are you saying that I should never go to clubs again? I love music. I don’t want to stop going to clubs & concerts. I have been able to attend huge concerts with no issues before.

I realized that I shouldn’t have done certain things. I definitely should’ve complained to management when I was harassed or in some cases, called the police acter being assaulted.

And of course not have drank excessively. I thought that I was cautious by watching my drink, not talking to strangers, having a friend with me usually, not dressing provocatively, etc.

These days I rarely go to clubs or bars. The places I went to also weren’t nice places. I stupidly trusted a few wild former friends who took me to low class sleazy bars . I didn’t trust my intuition to leave when I should’ve left

Never again. At one place homeless guys kept coming in to beg for drinks. Big red flag! My friend back then told me that she was a good judge of character. Apparently she wasn’t as she is bipolar & eventually she ended up getting robbed after she let a homeless wiman stay over at her place.

As for me being married, who says that married people shouldn’t go out? I don’t want to stay home all the time or only go to ‘safe’ places. As I said, I love music. I don’t go out to meet men or anyone else obviously. Btw, I no longer go to any bars period. I only went to a few in the past.

My husband hates clubs, concerts & my music, and most of my friends don’t or didn’t share my taste in music back then. So my options were limited

I only went to places alone before very reluctantly as I has no one to go out with at the time. It’s interesting to how a man can go out alone with no issues, but if you do it as a woman, that you must be there to hook up with men.

Thanks for offering those book suggestions btw. I’ll check them out.

Btw, the last few shows that I went to were OK. I had a lot of fun at these shows & some of these clubs. My good time was obviously ruined a few times, but I still had some fun.

If someone told you to stop going to Yosemite because you could possibly get killed by some bison, would you stop going there? Probably not. You’d just sray away from them. I was reasonably cautious most of the time. I never ever let anyone biy me drinks for one.

I definitely am more aware of things now & I could never ever go to a club or a show alone again. It is to dangerous to do so for a female obviously. Especially me.

I could still get harassed anywhere. If I do though, I will definitely get management or the police involved immediately.

I will also immediately move away if anyone approaches me. I’m not there to meet anyone. And I’ll definitely move away the second anyone tries to touch me or display any kind of inappropriate behavior.

I don’t care if I come across as rude. I need to protect myself.