Hi everyone,

i seek some support regarding my indecision about becoming a parent. I am 38 and want to figure out whether parenting is a good decision for me. I have Bipolar II and my husband has ADHD. We are both struggling with our conditions and I am wondering if it is a good idea to have a third in the mix with either or both of these problems. I have a considerable desire for parenting but also am afraid of what it means to take care of a child with special needs when I am also dealing with mental health issues. But the thought of not becoming a parent leaves me with a sense of great loss. I thought I will reach out to parents and others in a similar situation of indecision here, for advice. What is it like to parent a child with needs when you have a condition ? Is it still rewarding or overwhelming? How does it affect your relationship with partner and your career? While these things can be very specific to different situations, it would be great to know about individual journeys of coping.