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CANDC · Jul 12, 2023, 06:04 PM

HI @Tipis welcome to MSF. I hear you about being drawn in two directions. That is a tough decision only you can make. What I would do is imagine yourself taking care of a child as they grow up and hopefully mature and be independent. Worse case scenario they may stay under your wing as long as you are alive.

The second thing to think about, how solid is your relationship with partner? If things are shaky now then adding a child could just upset the apple cart so to speak.

The other thing is the cost. Raising a child even without any problems can be very expensive. If you do not own your house, rents are soaring.

Have you considered other alternatives that may fulfill the needs you feel without the long commitment? There are programs like Big Brother Big Sister that you can help with a child part time and get the joy of doing fun things with them and not the long term headaches.

Another option is to do baby sitting. That is usually a short term commitment. It allows you to see what being around children is like without the long term commitment and they get to go home.

Hope you get the support you are looking for @CANDC