I want to write a lot. I'm on disability and my husband has bipolar as well. We purposely had a child feeling we knew what to look out for in the teen years. Well I was sicker than we knew. I had psychosis several times. Leaving my husband to care for both of us. And when he was sick I cared for both of them. Leaving us both unable to work. Our son was in daycare also he was having trouble and delayed speech. Because of his delays we choose to homeschool. Eventually he was dx autism and ADHD. We focused on getting well and providing the best education for him. His first attempt he was 10. He got dx with depression and anxiety. We got through highschool with an associate's. He then went to university and graduated. He went on to his master's but still struggle with daily life. Recently diagnosed with bipolar also but more likely SZA. We are all really close. Though he grew up poor. it's not the life I suspected and we'll be living together longer than a traditional family but I really wouldn't change it.

It's hard to see him swallow several medications several times a day but we truly have a great family. I urge you and your husband to get a therapist both independent and couples. Then when the child needs a neutral trusted adult you get him one too. Have them all work together as a family team.