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nonightowl · Jul 13, 2023 at 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Have Hope

snip:I also can relate when you say it's getting harder to meet quality people the older you get. I am running into the same issue.

Ghosting someone is an act of cruelty, in my mind, unless you're ghosting someone who has crossed lines and the boundaries of respect. Or if you have to ghost someone who has been abusive. But otherwise, I think it's cruel. Sorry you had to experience that - I have too, and it always hurts.

I'm even reluctant to try that Meet Up stuff that's so hyped up.

I just feel the odds are 50%, no better, that I'll meet quality people. I was thinking of trying to find a book club that spends the whole time on the BOOK and not other nonsense like the one I go to at the senior center. It's a lot to go through for something that's more risky than meeting people by chance, such as in the library as an example.

And I don't want to create ANOTHER username/password; I have dozens.

And doing all that technology, dealing with emails, whatnot. Like you I'm afraid I'll get ghosted again, after ALL that. Or that I'll end up with another group just like the one I'm in now: 1 or 2 long-winded people dominate the conversation for the whole hour, no facilitation either.

I agree that ghosting is only okay in extreme cases, such as really crossing lines or inflicting intentional harm. Otherwise, it's cowardly. It's supposed to be about people not having the courage to be straight with you. I guess I don't want anyone like that in my life anyway. Still, I won't seek out confrontation per se but I'm not afraid of it either.

People suck.