I have a kind of different situation. So I don't know if you want my thoughts.

But I have three sons, and I wouldn't trade a done of them for not having kids.

I personally have anxiety and some other health issues. My husband has I'd say depression and anxiety, but he isn't treated. Bi-polar runs in both families.

My oldes has bi-polar, adhd, and learning disabilities. He lives with us. My middle one has adhd, learning disabilities and anxieties.
My youngest has epilepsy, anxiety, and mild disability and some health issues.

We deal with them all in different ways. I have three grandchildren that have different disabilities too. BUt I am so glad to have them. And wouldn't have it any other way. We learn to deal with what they need and figure out what to do.

Donna