Well you cannot change people. You can only change yourself. So you can’t do anything to make your husband be someone he is not. That’s who he is.

As about situations you find yourself in, I wonder if there are some type of adult life skills classes or something. You often end up in situations that could be avoided. Does it mean your husband justified in being nasty? No, he should remain calm. He needs to find other ways to remedy the issues.

Honestly if my husband decided to go on trips and parties with no extra money and didn’t charge his phone and didn’t check train schedule, I’d not be too excited. Now I’d definitely pay and not hang up on him and I’d not be nasty, but I’d have a long talk with him about basic life skills.

Maybe make a list of things before going places: stuff you need to get done, things to check while there etc

Really if you have no extra money/valid credit card for a transportation, you shouldn’t travel because emergencies happen and you could end up stranded or in danger. And how late did you think trains run? It’s like a subway. They don’t run all night. It would help if you prepare for events ahead of time. Of course some things could not be predicted but many could be avoided if you prepare well