I do have that, yes, @JaneOnceMore.🙏

I think continue with the STOP technique (I use a similar approach) because it is at least conducive to the awareness of the troublesome thoughts and feelings, in conjunction with shifting your attention to more beneficial thoughts - as often as is necessary.

Even though it does feel haphazard and ineffective, to me it is still better than not doing anything about it at all and just letting your mind take you on the, yes, pointless journey of self torment.

And in terms of facing people/places where you feel you have let yourself or others down, well, just keep 'showing up'. People are generally more forgiving (even forgetful!) of people's 'funny ways'. That part takes courage and some effort and is in alignment to self-love and self-respect. That's all I can share with you at this point.🙏